Life has a way of moving inexorably onward, while we can remain stuck in a by-gone era (and in the same old tired styles). Just about the only style that stands the true test of time, no matter what decade it is or age we are — are the classics. Great styles in quality fabrics that have the look and timeless beuty that are great value for money. Often we loose touch with the idea that it is a good thing to care for ourselves and about the way we look — what our “style” (or lack of it) says about us as Mom’s, women and co-workers. We often focus only on others, leading to feeling and/or looking like a drudge. We have a “why bother?” attitude because television or movie perfection (if we ever lived it), has left us in the shadows. Unfortunately, Hollywood has hooked us into believing that it is real (it isn’t). Life is about striving for comfortable, happy living not striving for perfect.

Having said that, I completely understand that we would like to be our best without a ton of muss and fuss because we live busy, full lives. So, with some simple tricks, we can hide plenty of the real or imagined imperfections that keep us from appreciating our own true beauty — no matter what size, shape or age we are. We must begin with the idea that we are individuals, with individual purpose and beauty and that we should appreciate ourselves BEFORE asking those who love us to do so too.

Each of us can and should strive for our own signature “look” because even when we appreciate and adopt another’s “style” we do make it our own. In creating our own style we add some much needed “self care” to our life. I promise that you will feel truly empowered and energized by your own special “pulled together” look that will be easy to do — YES your own version of the pulled together easy look you often have envied in others.

So, one of the most positive and uplifting things we can do for ourselves is to make a few changes that move us from “timed out” to “timeless.” It is true that, no matter what your size or shape, you can use these tips to flatter your look and you can use Ebay to keep the costs of making those changes within your budget too! Why pay retail when you can get great deals by bidding or by making best offers on clothing lines that are usually only available in upscale stores?

Here are some helpful hints to achieve a Classic Style for your body type:

1. Got a tummy? A straight or pencil skirt, coupled with a loose, longer style sweater or top takes the focus off the tummy bulge and draws the eye vertically from your lovely smile to your pretty shoes.

2. Shorter legs? Lengthen them with hose and shoes that match your skirt or slacks color. (Higher heels, if you like and can wear them, will add height too). Top off the outfit with a chunky sweater or overblouse with a scarf and/or pin for a finished look.

3. Hips a little larger than you would like? Wear an A-Line or pleated skirt that will skim over the hips. Add a matching jacket that hits just below the hip to achieve balance between the top and bottom (drawing the eye vertically).

4. Large Bust make you feel self conscious? Stay away from breast pockets and bloses that gap. When you put a top on sit in it and see how it lies on your chest. The goal will be to achieve balance between a more ample bust and less ample bottom. A straight skirt or pants (well pressed with a center crease), draws the eye vertically. Add tops that fit well in the shoulders AND (especially) are well fitting across the chest. If buttons gape at the bust in a standard size, but the shoulders fit well, try some of the “women’s sizes” such as a 14W, 16W and 18W. Women’s sizes provide more room in the bustline without additonal shoulder space added. Add a good fitting and matching or coordinating top (not too baggy or too tight) to those beautifully creased pants or straight skirt for a great look that draws the eye vertically. Check the balance of your outfit in the mirror — if it appears to be perfectly balanced from top to bottom, That is the look we are going for.

5. Darker colors on top also help to balance an exaggerated bust or wider shoulders. For instance, try camel pants and a black sweater. Note: Avoid belts which will only cut your verticle line and thereby emphasize the bust. An additional style to try is the halter style in warmer months which extends the verticle look by virtue of the ties at the neck.

5. Small Bust? Emphsize it with “add in fabrics” such as ruffles, cowl neck, drop neck, rouching, smocking, pin tucks or pleat details. The object here is to replace the additional bust you wish you had with fabric details in the top/sweater/shirt or blouse design to creat the upper and lower balance.

6. As discussed above, figures with any imbalance between top and bottom (i.e. pear shapes) benefit from staying away from horizontal lines in the fabric or an abrupt change of color (black and white for instance) at the waistline. Such elements cut the verticle view in half and exaggerate what we want to disguise. In these cases, a single coordinated color in the major pieces (top and bottom can be made more interesting with jewelery, jackets, cardigans and scarves while still creating a vertical line.

7. Short people should also avoid horizontal stripes too for the very reasons stated above and because the drawing of the eye left to right instead of top to bottom only makes short people look shorter. Remember that boxy styles tend to make one look like a box.

8. If you have small hips, add a hip belt to add some bulk where there is less than you would like to have. This addition of a hip belt also acts to help balance the top and bottom. Larger bottom than top? See item 6., above.

9. Bring fun into what you wear — Explore color! Contrary to most of nature where the males enjoy the beauty of coor (think peacocks here), in humans it is women who have the ability to use and enjoy color. Too often, we buy the same boring colors (are you permanently wedded to black or beige?). Sadly, as wonderful as the colors are, wearing them constantly is not flattering to anyone. Wearing a single color over and over, has predicable and unexciting results. Make it a point to explore color on your next shopping trip. Try on colors and styles you have never tried before — take an honest friend or relative with you to offer comments. Make a note of what works for you. Love fuscia but don’t think you can wear it? Try it in an accessory! A great way to use your favorite colors is with a silk scarf. Check out Ebay for a vast array of the prettiest silks imaginable at prices you just will not believe! Use silk scarves to soften the look and to wear new colors without drowning in them. To add to the fun, learn to tie several specialty scarf knots for different looks. Instructions on tying scarves are available on the web, try Googling “tie a silk scarf.”

10. Style is not a size — it is a look (and no one can see your tags) so buy the right size — not the number on the lable. Large or small — big or tall — Proportion is everything! Ever see someone walking down the street and you cannot see the person for the huge sized print they’e wearing? This visual shows you what “prints that are out of proportion” means in practice. No single element of what you wear should ever draw attention away from your entire (overall) look. I think prints are best when they are small and use beautifully coordinated colors. In printed fabrics, it is essential that one recognizes whether the print will add to, or detract from the balance we are trying to achieve in our overall look. Personally, I believe that a large print is rarely a good idea for any sized woman, but a large print easily overwhelms those who are short or very thin. Above all, remeber that large prints are very distracting so if you really like them, make sure that the pieces you wear with a large print are extremely quiet so you make a balanced presentation. Balance and proportion go hand in hand. Balance and proportion make or break an outfit every time.

11. I am a true fan of natural fibers or fabric blends with a large proportion of natural fibers in them including cotton, cotton blends, 100% merino or wool gaberdine, cashmere, Linen, silk and silk blends. The quality and weight of the natural fabrics lends them to a beautiful drape and most importantly, to the wearers comfort. Natural fibers tend to look great up close and from a distance too –and they last longer and look better for longer. Quality clothing is unmistakeble — it looks exactly like what it is — quality clothing. Obviously, clothing made from these fabrics tends to be far more expensive, too. This is why Ebay is the best source for great value on the best fabrics and styles in high end ladies clothing — New or Used. Get familiar with some of the best including two of my personal favorites, Talbots (great styling, wonderful size options and quality fabric) and Ralph Lauren (great country styling coupled with quality fabrics).

12. Help — I have no color sense…what now? You can never miss with a monochromatic look — two shades (usually light and dark) of the same color such as navy and grey blue or sky blue (wearing the darker shade on the larger part of the body such as a black top on a large busted woman or black slacks on the larger hipped woman). Color is easy when you choose two shades of the same color. It never misses for that that “pulled together” look we want. As boring as it is, I think the more classic look calls for no more than three colors in an outfit too (think black, white and gray). As examples, navy and light blue, black and gray, as well as brown and beige are great pairings. Keep such classic combinations from being boring by adding interesting and appropriate accessories, to include scarves, belts, shoes, jewelery and touches of small coordinating colors (possibly even a print) in a scarf or overblouse. Black pairs with almost any other color, including itself! The same is true for white but it is harder to wear and seasonal rules for wearing bright white, although changing still make bright white a summer color. Want to wear white in winter? Try eggshell, Ivory or winter white.

13. Although many designers mix prints, one must remember that these mixed prints usually are displayed on models who are six feet tall and weigh about 100 pounds. It seems that models would look lovely in a paperbag. This is not real life and hardly a good choice for a PTA meeting or a day in your office. If you are not a model shape, pulling off that level of “busy” in your outfit is much more difficult for those living in the real world and wholly unecessary to achieve your own “look.”

14. Following fashion fads is thankless and expensive. If you can afford to completely replace your wardrobe each season, following fashion fads is possible but the question remains — does it really make sense? If you find that you must chase the latest look, ask yourself why it is important to look like thousands of others rather than yourself? A critical element of real fashion nd those who are fashionably dressed is finding our own style, not following fads. In fact — being a style maker beats a style follower any day! The most practical way to dress is to buy the best clothing we can afford, avoiding fashion extremes, focussing on high quality, timeless pieces that carry us through for years. Mix and match the timeless pieces (for instance; a classic white shirt with a classic black trouser), with the trendy item of the year and season — such as a poncho, pashima or snood (to name only three fads that passed in the blink of an eye). If there is a fad look that you particularly loved such as that gypsy look from the 70’s there are many updated, less exaggerated versions available to keep the look without having it appear dated or over done.

15. Key to looking good, is feeling good about who you are. Understand that no matter what your size or shape, you are here on earth with a purpose and that makes you important and worthy of being well cared for — beginning with caring for yourself. In caring for yourself, self acceptance is an important first step. Spending the time and effort to get a great haircut, a facial and a manicure is not indulgence, it is essential self care. If you take great care of yourself you actually take better care of those you love. The bonus of positive self care aqnd a sense of personal worthiness and purpose is that taking good care of yourself directly translates to renewed confidence and belief in yourself that is so essential to the modern woman.

16. How do I maintain a “sexy and alluring” look without degenerating into the “Hooker” look? A simple rule here is to limit the exposed areas per outfit to only one. For instance, if you are wearing something with an exposed back, stay away from the deep plunging neckline –the reverse is also true. Never combine a deep plunging neckline with a side split to the hip in a skirt. Note that if you have to keep tugging a clothing item to keep yourself covered, it is too small or ill fitting — get rid of it. If you love the item and simply must have it — sell yours on Ebay and post a “Want It Now” ad to replace the item it in a larger size. The office (both in terms of time of day and environment) is never a place for exposed cleavage, or side splits that extend above the knee exposing a lot of thigh or your hip. The masculine attention you may get with inappropriate exposure will never be worth the picture you are painting of your “personal style.” Here again — it is balance that makes the difference. Be careful that your style is an accurate reflection of your professional capabilities and ambition not an advertisment of something else. Dress for the job you want, not necessarily the one you are in. Today, women want to be judged by our smarts and capabilities and not by our curves — one way to achieve this goal is to leave the skin exposure for after 5 and limiting your day wear to reflect “I am a grown and capable woman” not “I am hot and trolling”!

17. There is also an important delineation between office bling (low key, not clanging and appropriate) and after five bling (wear it loud and proud). Bling is beautiful and fun to wear — the more bling you wear, the less busy the clothing style should be. For perfect examples of what I mean here think of the best dressed actresses on the red carpet at the Oscars. Generally, the more busy the dress, the more delicate the jewelery, while the more quiet the dress, the more of Harry Winston’s over the top bling the actress can successfully wear.

Now go ahead, care for your beautiful self by cleaning out the closet (sell it all on eBay) and find some looks you really love and create a personal style that will have everyone thinking you just returned from an expensive spa. Tear out pages in magazines of things you like — as a well dressed pal what she thinks of this style for you.

I do hope you found this guide useful and will scroll down and offer a yes vote if you did find it helpful. I sincerely thank you in advance for your time! Please stop by my store “The Write Place” and my auctions for some stunning buys in the classic quality ladies clothing, shoes, accessories, I discuss in this article. I also sell bricabrac and collectables too.